Weaning in 3 basic steps
Weaning before – after
Actually, I saw an old photo of us while breastfeeding. I missed that so much, really. I want to share writing about those days to remember and make a permanent reminiscence. Maybe, my experiences help to another person, who knows.
Most of the mom, try to prepare their selves breastfeeding at their pregnant duration. But, I think, we can understand the real value and significance after birth when we start to do it. I am so glad to full of breastfeeding for two years. My intention was to stop the breastfeeding at her 2. age. I did it in the 25th month. Now, let’s look at the details of my weaning process.
My daughter used to love breastfeeding and really really was addicted. At her 2. age, she breastfed after her main meal or snacks. They were like our coffee time and just to enjoy her self. When she was upset, afraid she wanted to meet her best friend. She felt at peace and calmed down while breastfeeding. Her habit was like that; 3 times at least, during the night but it raised when she was sick and before and after sleeping, and also continue for daytime. This was horrible for me, because, I thought to stop would be very difficult.
What I felt
It was me who lost sleep. My daughter doesn’t know about this and I was worried about how sad she would be when my daughter stopped sucking when I woke up to breastfeed at night. Yet 2-3 months before, the emotions and thought started to gnaw away me. Breasts are with her since her birth, the first bond with the world, a friend to clung and calmed down and a special tie which continues with her mother. I could not get my self to think about these types of thoughts. And there was something extra in my mind. I am afraid of meeting something about our relationship. Actually, I read this is so normal but it was really hard to confess. I thought that my daughter would not want me anymore or would not run towards me as usual after stop breastfeeding. Maybe it comes familiar to you. It is possible to live that kind of emotion. This process already sad, emotional and heavy but I want to relax you. Really, you will not live anything like that. If you finish this process in a trustable and healthy way, your ties are going to be stronger. Because, I think, the confidence comes before the breasts. Your strong ties are growing up with your growing baby.
The weaning process took approximately 2 months. Yet my preparations had started before. I read books which suggested. I read the other’s experiences from other bloggers and forums. I try to prepare my emotions and my daughter. How? Actually, I did not breastfeed her whenever she wanted. But not in a specific order. In other words; when she wanted to suck instead of her meal or snack. I let her before the preparation, but after the starting point, I did not allow her to suck.
I tried to make her all meals in order and decrease the breastfeeding times. As you know, regular things are really important for babies, they feel more relaxed when they understand what is next.
As a result, I decided to wean gradually according to my knowledge. I made a schedule but not very tight or hard. I accomplished the process in 3 main stages. Accordingly;
- Daily breastfeeding
- Evening breastfeeding
- Night breastfeeding
Firstly, I reduce the total breastfeeding number to 3. It wasn’t so difficult. Initially, I tried to change my daughter’s attention to other things. We increase the outside activities even the weather was so warm. I made ready for her meals and snacks before she feels hungry. In the beginning, she needs breastfeeding emotionally. I try to give her in the mornings(before breakfast), at midday (before sleeping), in the evening. (at about 17.00). Normally, she had not any eating difficulty, but still sucking so much. And by the way, I do not count the evening ritual into this 3. This duration took approximately 3 weeks. As I mentioned, we did not any problem.
At the end of 3 weeks, I felt, I and my child were ready for the next stage. I started at 0 breastfeedings during the day. I just breastfeeding before and during sleeping. She started to attack me, before at night. But during the night, there was any trouble. She was not sucking more or less. Everything was normal. I guess this was roughly 3 weeks again.
Stop the before sleep habit
Actually, I afraid the changes her behavior before sleeping. But I decided to apply this method as a most trustable and stressless one. I continued my way. All of these had to live one day, and I thought that cutting the process will damage me and her. I explained the details of possible results, reactions to my husband and got his support. On the first day, she had cried for roughly one hour. She wanted to fall asleep, but she couldn’t. And the second day and third day, surprisingly, crying just continued 2-3 minutes. I think the main reason is, she understood and admit the situation. She had already got used to the day time routine. It was easy, to apply it tonight. One week later, everything was ok. There were not any rising at the number of night breastfeeding.
Complete by stopping the night breastfeeding
After two weeks from the previous stage, we weaned at nights completely. I was careful to make it on Friday because my husband was at home to help me, he helped me to feel better so much. I told my daughter that that night there would not any breast but, ıt didn’t help. Obviously, now her trouble was not with breastfeeding, it was about falling asleep. She used to sleep with sucking and then she could not find it. Normally I help her to fall asleep by swinging. I waited for a while after her cryings to swing. Her dad was always with us but, she just screamed and said “mummy” and he could not help pretty much. We lived this 3-4 times on the first night and the next day, she felt a bit tired because of sleeplessness and sleep a little more during the day. The second day, we have lived the same things but falling asleep was easier than before. At the end of the next week, we took care of it.
I couldn’t believe that because I slept nonstop after a long time, and I started to sleep for 5-6 hours continuously. I woke up better and more energetic.
I think, 2 years of breastfeeding duration which is suggested by doctors is really important and enough for babies and mothers. In our weaning experience, we have not any big troubles, crisis. In this way, you never feel any pain, ache or discomfort situation. Because the amount of your lactated milk decreases day by day according to your child’s sucking number. I also did not use any medicine or anything to stop lactation. I mean, this is a natural thing and I didn’t want to interfere with the process. My milk lactation amount reduces fastly but not stopped easily. I remember that I pressed my nipple after six months and, a small drop came out. It was so little but still continued. But as I mentioned, I didn’t live an unhealthy case.
In my opinion, trying to get children out of the habit of sucking in awkward and dirty ways is far from common sense. This will only cause damage to your child’s best friend and to your bond with you. Maybe you think they won’t remember this ages. But I believe in that, this type of traumatic experience engrave on their characters. And you can come up against unexpected reactions. Action-reaction balances.
If you have suitable conditionals, I recommend to fill for 2 years but it is really hard and difficult for mummy both physically and psychologically. After this duration toilet training comes, if you did not apply elimination communication. All of them, milestones for your children. You should not run them simultaneously. If you want to read our elimination communication and integrated toilet training, just click.
Take care of your selves, bye.